Sunday, February 05, 2006

control

Been thinking about one of Slacker Mom's posts since I read it. Guess that mean's I need to add another post.

She wrote:
when you think you've got it all together, something shoots right in there to show how you don't have any control. And it's not all your doing when things are going great either.


I am a person who is constantly looking for control. I'm not trying to control other people, just always trying to control what is happening to me... If I just say the right thing, do the right thing, stay organized enough, (my list could go on and on...) then everything will be okay. Won't it? :o)

It actually reminds me of my girls. B was an angel baby. Slept all the time. Smiled the rest of the time. (At least in my memory. :o) I had read (and reread) The Baby Whisperer several times. Worked very hard to follow her guidelines - help B build independence, go to bed on her own, etc... etc... Thought her good habits had so much to do with all our hard work. Then came H. Tried to do the same things with her - build independence, go to bed on her own, etc... H had other things in mind. I found out I wasn't such hot stuff with B, a lot of it was luck. My control over parenting diminished a bit. (I'm still trying though. :o)

5 comments:

b said...
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b said...

First of all the deleted comment is from me. I originally responded with one word, which was, "huh?" b/c your whole post wasn't up, just the word control. So I was confused.

But now there is more, so I can respond accordingly.

Yes, you suck as a mom. The way your kids behave is just a total coincidence.

b

b said...

hee hee hee.

Seriously, you are by far the best mom that I know. I strive all the time to be as patient, yet strict, yet caring, yet fun mom that you are.

But, our children have their own minds. And we can only do so much to make them do what we want them to.

I think H is preparing you now to give up some of that control before they both become teens!

M said...

B, Thanks for the compliment. I can always count on a boost from you. :o)

I agree with you about H. Truthfully, I think maybe she was born to us for a reason. I think she's God's way of telling me to give up some of that control...

As for the girls in their teens, I can't even bare to think about it. :o)

Mrs. G.F. said...

Oh, I think you get more ready for the teen thing as they grow...kind of like breaking in a horse! LOL

:)

it is amazing to see just how different your kids can be, isn't it?